FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE® with Karli Newman
Hi there! I'm Karli Newman, and this is my podcast, FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®.
In my mid-40s, my positive mindset was tested. I felt life was passing me by. I was restless in my career even though I loved my job, and exhausted after years of ignoring my self-care. PLUS the hormonal shifts of perimenopause were affecting me in ways I didn't know or understand.
Externally I maintained a positive attitude. Internally I struggled with changing my life’s direction. I didn't talk about it and it took me years to work through it.
Over time I took some big leaps, including a move back to Arizona. I created a new approach to my life and maximized my innate positivity. That’s how I ended up here - helping women like you tap into your positive mindset and inner expertise to see and seize the possibilities around you. I don’t want you to do this alone!
I’m a certified coach focused on whole-life wellness. I know from personal experience what a transformational time of life this is and how challenging it feels sometimes! I’m here to help you navigate obstacles, uncover how to move forward, and continue your unique journey of personal growth and self-discovery.
I intentionally create short episodes that fit into your busy life and get you thinking about your well-being. I cover topics that the women in this community care about (that's you BTW!).
Wherever you are in midlife and beyond, there’s space here to honor who you’ve been, love who you are, and be excited about who you are becoming.
This is the FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE® and it's a glorious place to be!
Go ahead...binge all of my episodes. xo Karli
FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE® with Karli Newman
FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®: MOVE THROUGH DISAGREEMENT IN A FRIENDSHIP
Friendships in midlife and beyond can be incredibly fulfilling—but they can also face challenges, especially after a disagreement that leaves both of you unsettled.
In this episode are six gentle and effective approaches to reconnect and restore your friendships after a disagreement.
Your friendships deserve empathy and an open and courageous heart. Because female friendships are SO important in midlife and beyond!
xo Karli
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FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®: MOVE THROUGH DISAGREEMENT IN A FRIENDSHIP
Friendships in midlife and beyond can be incredibly fulfilling. But they can also face challenges, especially after a disagreement that leaves both of you unsettled. It's unrealistic to think our friendships will only be filled with sunshine and roses. Yet, we aren't always prepared to move through our differences to preserve a friendship.
Keep listening for ways to approach a friend when you've had a disagreement that didn't end well.
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Welcome to FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®. I'm Karli Newman, a GenX woman, community builder, and life and wellness coach for women in midlife and beyond. Thanks for being here, my friend!
As you form and nurture new friendships in midlife and beyond, you'll inevitably tread through misunderstandings as you get to know one another. Neither of you are in your formative years, so there's more life experience, uplifting and deflating, that comes into a foundling friendship. You carry a lot with you, and so does she!
Preserve a blossoming friendship and deepen its bonds with an approach that helps you listen to one another, understand each other's perspectives, and land in a space free of judgment. So how can you move forward when you have a disagreement that ends with both of you feeling upset?
Here are six different approaches you can take to reconnect and restore your friendship.
Number one. Reach out with an open heart. Acknowledge the disagreement, and kindly express your desire to reconnect. For example, 'Hey, I've been thinking about you and the conversation we had. Our friendship means a lot to me. Can we talk?'
Number two. Be curious and don't assign blame. Use open-ended questions, curiosity, and compassionate listening to understand. Avoid accusations or defensiveness. You might say, 'I want to hear your perspective. Help me understand.'
Number three. Share your feelings honestly and kindly. Gently express your perspective without expecting agreement. It might sound like, 'When we spoke, I felt misunderstood and I want to clarify what I meant. I really value our friendship.'
Number four. Write a thoughtful note. Sometimes speaking, face-to-face feels like a difficult starting point. A handwritten note or a thoughtful message allows you to express your feelings clearly, calmly, and without interruption. This gives your friend time to reflect on your words before responding to you.
Number five. Suggest a neutral meeting. Invite your friend to a neutral, relaxed setting like a cafe or a park. A different neutral environment can diffuse tension and help both of you approach the conversation with a fresh perspective. A neutral open mind can allow you to listen with curiosity and detach from preconceived outcomes.
Number six. Take responsibility and apologize for your part. Release the need to be right. Yep. This one can be hard. Acknowledge your role in the disagreement and sincerely apologize for it. Create openness and healing that does not depend on a reciprocal apology. You may get one, you may not. If you truly want to reconcile and move past the disagreement, don't allow it to hinge on hearing, 'I'm sorry, too.'
Seek to understand instead of agree to strengthen a friendship. Your views won't align a hundred percent of the time, so lean into the places where you really do connect. Allow the other things to fade to the outer boundaries of your relationship.
It takes courage and sometimes a slice or two of humble pie to reconnect after a disagreement in a friendship. Take a gentle step forward. Your friendship deserves it.
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Approach disagreements with openness and empathy to deepen your friendships. Even when you don't see eye to eye, it is possible to understand one another.
Thank you for listening. As always, I'm here cheering you on as you travel through midlife and beyond. I'll be back next Wednesday with another episode of FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®.
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