FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®: YOUR HARMONY MINDSET

To create harmony in your life, it doesn’t take a giant overhaul or a longer to-do list. What it does take is a different way of thinking. 

In this episode, I help you find your harmony mindset by reframing inner dialogue that puts you into a state of disharmony. 

You are capable and deserve the peace and ease that come into your life when you find your harmony mindset! xo Karli

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FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®: YOUR HARMONY MINDSET

Take a deep breath in my friend. Hold it at the top. Now exhale every bit of that breath. Do that one or two more times and feel the reset.  

To create harmony in your life, it doesn't take a giant overhaul or a longer to-do list. What it does take is a different way of thinking. 

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Welcome to this episode of FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®. I'm Karli Newman, a Gen X woman, community builder, and life and wellness coach for women in midlife and beyond.

Thank you for being here. 

The past two episodes helped you relinquish the search for balance and seek harmony instead. I shared a few benefits of harmony and ways to create it in the BALANCE ISN'T REALITY episode. Last week in HOW TO CREATE HARMONY MORE OFTEN, I walked you through common signs of disharmony and different ideas for hitting reset to return to harmony. Like what you did at the top of this episode. 

If you missed those two episodes, please go back and listen. 

Today I'm here to share a mindset shift that helps you make harmony your daily default. I suggest you have your journal, notebook, or favorite app ready for notes, my friend.

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It's the productivity beast inside of us that makes us want to have a mile-long checklist, feel guilty if we sit quietly for 10 minutes, and do, do, do. Does any of that sound familiar? Then this may come as a relief to you. Harmony tames that beast.

To feel the ease of harmony. A mindset shift is in order.

Find your harmony mindset by reframing inner dialogue that puts you into a state of disharmony. Let's walk through some examples.

When you say, 'I have to do it all,' or another version of this is 'everything depends on me,' overwhelm is soon to follow. There will always be something to do and someone who wants something from you. The harmonious mindset shift to these thoughts is 'I get to choose where to spend my energy.' Grant yourself permission to choose what matters and delay, delegate, or delete what doesn't. 

Another example is when you say, 'I'll feel better when' or 'I'll relax when' these thoughts mean perfectionism and self-deprivation are rearing their not-so-pretty heads. Harmony isn't reliant on reaching an unrealistic milestone or punishing yourself until you get there.

Shift these thoughts to, 'I know how to find peace and feel at ease now.' Use what helps you soften into the present moment and find acceptance with 'good enough'. Understand the little shifts, like enjoying your coffee or tea while looking out a window, noticing where your body is holding tension and releasing it in a way that works for you, or even pausing for several deep breaths.

My last example is when you say, 'I must be doing something' or any thought related to idle hands leading to trouble. If you've spent years evaluating your worth on how much you get done in a day, START HERE, my friend. You are worthy of space - empty space - where you can just be. You don't need to rush around, do one more thing, or stop peeing before your bladder is empty so you can move on to the next thing! 

Shift these thoughts to, 'I am worthy of space to move slowly, be in the moment, and rest.' Know what helps you slow down. Stay away from external information entering your world for a few hours. Feel into the benefits you experience when you choose restorative actions and let go of filling every moment with to-dos. 

I encourage you to notice other thoughts that may need a shift to help you develop your unique harmony mindset. Hit pause here and write while you have these examples fresh in your mind. 

Where in your life do you notice disharmony and what thoughts come to you?Then reframe these thoughts to create feelings of harmony instead- just like I did in the examples above. 

The email I sent on March 19th, 2025, gives you five tiny habits you can form to nurture harmony. I love how seamlessly they fit into my day and how they help me maintain my harmony mindset. 

You missed it if you're not on my free Wednesday email list. So, reach out to me at karli@flipsideofmidlife.com to request the March 19th email, and then visit the link in the show notes and transcript to join the list.

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If you're ready to feel more supported, inspired, and in tune with what truly matters, please join us inside ELEVATE. 

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Yes, my friend. It takes practice to replace old thoughts that cause disharmony.

You are capable and deserve the peace and ease that come into your life when you find your harmony mindset. 

Have thoughts about this episode. I'd love to hear from you. Leave a comment or share with me privately at karli@flipsideofmidlife.com. 

Thank you for listening. As always, I'm here cheering you on as you travel through midlife and beyond.

I'll be back next Wednesday with another episode of FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®. Until then, enjoy finding your harmony mindset.

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