FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®: SELF-LOVE RUNS DEEP

There’s one person you spend every single moment with—yourself.

If you had to rate your self-love on a scale from 1 to 5, what number would you choose? No judgment—just an honest check-in. Because wherever you are right now, there are ways to deepen your self-love and make it a part of your daily life.

In this episode, I’m sharing three ways to nurture self-love. They start at 02:32

Tune in, take a breath, and deepen your self-love.

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Transcript

FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®: SELF-LOVE RUNS DEEP

There is one person on this planet, in this life, with whom you spend every single moment. 

If you had to rate your self-love right now on a scale from 1 to 5, with 5 being the deepest level, what number would you choose?

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Hello my friend, if you haven't listened before, I'm Karli Newman. I'm a Gen X woman, community builder, and life coach for women in midlife and beyond.
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Now, let's talk more about self-love.

Do not judge the number you gave yourself at the top of the episode, my friend. 

An honest assessment means you know where you are. And that awareness allows you to take steps that help you nurture self-love in the ways that work best for you.

If you missed my previous episodes called How Do You Define Self Love and Take Yourself on a Date, I encourage you to listen to those when you're done here. Both help you foster self-love more deeply. 

Wherever you rated yourself, there are things you can do to enhance your self-love practice. 

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Here are three ways to foster your self-love.

First, reframe your inner dialogue. Ugh, there is a mean girl in your head and she comes out quite a lot. Notice how you talk to yourself. Are you talking to yourself in a way that you would never talk to your friend? If you wouldn't say those things to a friend, why on earth are you saying them to yourself? It takes practice to catch yourself. It takes awareness to catch yourself.  but when you shift from self-criticism to self-kindness, you'll feel the difference it makes.

A second way to foster your self-love is to default to self-compassion in moments of struggle. We can really beat ourselves up because we're not perfect. Perfection is a fallacy, my friend. It does not exist. Stop striving for it. The next time you make a mistake, feel overwhelmed, or struggle with self-doubt, pause, take a deep breath, and say these words to yourself.

I am human. I am imperfect. I am worthy of love as I am.

That deep breath and those words will give you just enough time to calm down, regroup, reset, and understand that it's okay.

A third way to foster your self-love is to practice, and you get to practice however you want to. This isn't about jumping on the latest trend or doing what your best friend loves to do. Unless you love those things, of course. Your self-love practice is unique and personal. Stay true to you. Try new things, but if it doesn't feel right, don't add it to your self-love toolbox. Learn what makes you feel at peace. What makes you feel excited about life? What makes you feel truly loved? 

What do you need to feel loved in the moment? Whatever it is, do it! Maybe it's quiet mornings with coffee, daily walks, reading, dancing in the kitchen, finding time by yourself. Whatever fuels your soul and makes you feel deeply loved by yourself is the right way for you. 

I encourage you to choose one self-love practice and commit to making it part of your daily routine. If one doesn't work, pick a few. The idea here is to practice every single day. If I were to share some advice it would be to think of things you can do in five minutes, or less, anywhere you are. The reason for that is that it makes it easier to say yes every single day to practicing self-love.

Here's the thing, my friend. Self-love isn't a race with a finish line. It's part of who you are. Self-love means you are kind, forgiving, and gentle with yourself in all ways, on all days. And the best part, the deeper your self-love gets, the more satisfying life gets. Your stress goes down, your confidence rises, your relationships flourish.

Self-love is the key to deep trust in and loyalty to Y O U.

Have thoughts about this episode? You know I'd love to hear from you. Leave a comment or share with me privately at karli@flipsideofmidlife.com. 

Thank you for listening today. As always, I'm here cheering you on as you travel through midlife and beyond. I'll be back next Wednesday with another episode of FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®.

Until then, enjoy deepening your self-love.

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