FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®: TAKE YOURSELF ON A DATE

Recently, I stepped out on my husband… and I loved it. It wasn’t the first time either.

But before you get the wrong idea, let me clarify—this was a self-date. And let me tell you, there’s something truly magical about spending intentional, quality time with yourself.

In this episode, I’m sharing why self-dates are one of the best ways to practice self-love, how they shift your mindset, and three unique self-date ideas to inspire you. Whether you’ve never taken yourself on a date or you’re overdue for one, this is your reminder to put it on the calendar this month.

Tune in, get inspired, and start planning your next self-date—you deserve it! xo Karli

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Transcript

FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®: TAKE YOURSELF ON A DATE

Recently, I stepped out on my husband. And I loved it. It wasn't the first time either.

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Hello, my friend. If you haven't listened before, I'm Karli Newman. I'm a GenX woman, community builder, and life coach for women in midlife and beyond. 

Before I tell you more about my little escapade, I want to welcome you to the FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE® community- a space for women in midlife and beyond. Thank you for being here. 

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Now, on to the rest of the episode. If I piqued your curiosity about my love life, I have to disappoint you. Unless you already assumed this is about my self-love life. 

Have you ever been on a self-date? Aaahhh, you don't have to consider anyone else's preferences. You choose exactly what you want to do, where you want to go, and how long you want to be there. There is no need to make conversation, no pressure to entertain or listen. Your mind can blissfully wander the entire time. 

There's something extra special about a self-date, and it's one of my favorite ways to express self-love.

Self-dates can be spontaneous, but my favorite is to plan one and put it on my calendar. I make reservations or appointments, figure out how I want to bookend them, and live with the happy vibes of anticipation leading up to my date.

When you take yourself on a date, you show up for yourself in a really big way. If you've never taken yourself on a date before, I'm here to encourage you to step out of your self-love comfort zone and plan one this month. Here are three ideas to inspire you for your next self-date.

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An art and inspiration date is the first one. Visit a local museum, gallery, or botanical garden. Wander at your own pace, soak in the beauty, creativity, and inspiration that's around you. Take photos and bring a journal. Maybe you can find a quiet spot to sit and write about your experience in the midst of all of that beauty. Write about how your self-love is being expressed in that moment.

A second kind of date you might want to go on is a live music or comedy date. Find a concert or a comedy show and enjoy being entertained. Why not get a meal at your favorite restaurant or one you want to try? Schedule a ride share so you don't have to think about where you're going, how to get there, where the one-way streets are, or parking once you arrive. Door-to-door service. It's an act of self-love, my friends.

And a third kind of date is a treasure hunt date. I love these. Head to a flea market, antique shop, book fair, or art festival with no agenda other than to explore. Meander through. Notice what speaks to you. It might be a book, a piece of jewelry, or a little treasure that helps you remember the day. You don't even have to make a purchase. Notice where you get inspired, take your pictures, write in a journal. Use this as just a relaxing, calm, no-agenda kind of date. 

Now it's your turn, my friend. Choose any kind of self-date that sounds dreamy to you. Whether it's one of the above or something else you come up with, put it on your calendar and make it happen before the end of the month. While you're at it, why not put next month's on the calendar, too? 

Make self-dates part of your consistent self-love practice. It's not selfish. It's an act of self-care, self-respect, and self-celebration. You deserve it.

Are you planning a self-date? Or have you already taken one? I'd love to hear about it. Leave a comment or share it with me privately at karli@flipsideofmidlife.com.

Thank you for listening today. As always, I'm here cheering you on as you travel through midlife and beyond. I'll be back next Wednesday with another episode of FLIPSIDE OF MIDLIFE®.

Until then, enjoy planning your self-date.

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